{"id":5733,"date":"2015-07-31T17:27:59","date_gmt":"2015-07-31T17:27:59","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"2021-03-25T15:08:50","modified_gmt":"2021-03-25T19:08:50","slug":"at_long_last_the_13_things_mentally_strong_people_don_t_do","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.rushlimbaugh.com\/daily\/2015\/07\/31\/at_long_last_the_13_things_mentally_strong_people_don_t_do\/","title":{"rendered":"At Long Last, the 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don\u2019t Do"},"content":{"rendered":"

RUSH: I ran into this. This was originally published on the 26th of July. So five days ago, four or five days ago. And it ran on Business Insider, and it\u2019s not the 13 things mentally strong people do. It\u2019s the “13 Things Mentally Strong People Don\u2019t Do,”<\/a> and it\u2019s from a book by Amy Morin, and that\u2019s the title of the book: “13 Things Mentally Strong People Don\u2019t Do.” Essentially, “[i]t\u2019s about controlling your thoughts, behaviors, and emotions.”<\/p>\n

So according to this author, these are the thirteen things. I don\u2019t know if they\u2019re in any order of importance or priority. Keep that in mind. “Here are 13 things mentally strong people do not do, according to Morin: 1. They don\u2019t waste time feeling sorry for themselves. Feeling sorry for yourself is self-destructive, she writes. Indulging in self-pity hinders living a full,\u2019 open and enjoyable life. “It wastes time, creates negative emotions, and hurts your relationships,” and it puts you in prison, because all you\u2019re doing is thinking about yourself.<\/p>\n

And when you start thinking about yourself, you fall into the trap of thinking everybody else is thinking about you. And then the day\u2019s going to come when you\u2019re going to learn nobody\u2019s thinking about you and they don\u2019t care. And then you\u2019re going to be really depressed and then really feel sorry for yourself! So don\u2019t start that cycle by feeling sorry for yourself, period.<\/p>\n


\nNumber two, mentally strong people “don\u2019t give away their power. People give away their power when they lack physical and emotional boundaries, Morin writes. You need to stand up for yourself and draw the line when necessary. If other people are in control of your actions, they define your success and self-worth. It\u2019s important that you keep track of your goals and work towards them.<\/p>\n

“Morin uses Oprah Winfrey as an example of someone with a strong grip on their power. Winfrey grew up dealing with poverty and sexual abuse, but ‘she chose to define who she was going to be in life by not giving away her power,\u2019 she says.” I\u2019m not sure that\u2019s the best example. But if you want to use it, go ahead. It\u2019s a woman writing this, and those kind of things of Oprah\u2019s story would, I\u2019m sure, resonate: The sexual abuse and the lack of empowerment contained therein.<\/p>\n

Some people have such low self-esteem they don\u2019t even consider their own power. They don\u2019t think about it. Other people have been convinced power\u2019s bad. “Power is what CEOs use. That\u2019s bad! Power is what bosses use. That\u2019s bad! Power is what the US Military uses. That\u2019s bad! Power is unfair. Power is someone saying, ‘I\u2019m more important; I\u2019m bigger than you.'” All of these are tricks to get you to give away your self-esteem, to get you to give away your ability to stand up for yourself.<\/p>\n

Number three, they “don\u2019t shy away from change. There are five stages of change, Morin writes: pre-contemplation, contemplation, preparation, action, and maintenance. Following through with each of the five steps is crucial. Making changes can be frightening…” It is. People will literally paralyze themselves in a lot of ways because change is new. That\u2019s the thing about change that people have the biggest problem with. Everybody has a comfort zone, things that they like to do that they feel comfortable doing, being, saying.<\/p>\n

And any kind of change? “Oh, I don\u2019t know. I don\u2019t know. But mentally powerful, tough people aren\u2019t afraid of it. Number four, they “don\u2019t focus on things they can\u2019t control.” Now, you hear this all the time. You hear it a lot from golfers. You hear it a lot from sports people. You hear it a lot from others being interviewed by people on TV. “Well, you know I can only worry about things I can control.” It\u2019s become almost a cliche that people say because it sounds good, sounds mature.<\/p>\n


\nBut to actually recognize it and to actually understand it and realize that there are things you can\u2019t control, that it\u2019s a total waste of time being affected by those things. Trying to change those things is a total waste of time, and they all end up serving the purpose of diminishing you, because you end up realizing, “Oh my God, I\u2019m powerless! I can\u2019t do anything. I can\u2019t control anything. “That\u2019s not it. That\u2019s the negative, worst example of it.<\/p>\n

But it is a very, very important thing to be able to understand what you can\u2019t change, what you can\u2019t control and deal with the things that you can. Number five, they “don\u2019t worry about pleasing everyone.” I think that one is the thing that has more people in personal prison than anything else: Worrying about what other people think of you. And everybody does. It\u2019s impossible not to. I\u2019m convinced it\u2019s part of the human DNA. And then the way some of us are raised makes it even worse.<\/p>\n

You know who suffers more from this than anybody in the world? The sons and daughters of the rich and prominent. Their parents are constantly on them about the example they have to live up to, and about the expectations the world has of them or the country has of them. They are often warned not to embarrass the family. “Do not disgrace the family name,” and look at how many of them do. Look at how many children of the wealthy and prominent blow it, make fools of themselves.<\/p>\n

Because it\u2019s huge, huge pressure to go through life spending every waking moment worried about what somebody thinks of you. You want to talk about power? You are giving away power to people that you don\u2019t even know when you\u2019re worried what they think. Particularly people you don\u2019t know, when you\u2019re worried about what they think of you, you\u2019re giving people power like you can\u2019t believe.<\/p>\n

At the same time, you\u2019re assuming that they\u2019re better than you.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re worried about what they think, then what they think of you is more important than what you think of you and who you really are. And then you start tailoring yourself to try to be what everybody this person expects you to be, and before you know it, you don\u2019t know who you are. And then you become a phony-baloney, plastic-banana, good-time rock and roller. It\u2019s the toughest thing in the world to not worry about what people think of you particularly if you\u2019re a child and your parents are always there.<\/p>\n

“What are they going to think of you if you get a D? You know what people are going to say?” “I\u2019m sorry, mom!” It\u2019s just forced on us all the time. But if you can escape this, if you can escape the prison of not worrying what people think of you, you will be amazed at how your life will be different. The major reason you will get rid of this assumption that everybody is better than you or that everybody is more put together than you, or everybody is hipper or everybody is more well adjusted than you are.<\/p>\n

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\nI mean, if you\u2019re going to waste time worrying about what other people think of you, you\u2019re automatically saying you\u2019re inferior to them. That\u2019s a hell of a place to be. I think this one is number one. Number six, they “don\u2019t fear taking calculated risks.” That doesn\u2019t need much extrapolation. Number seven, they “don\u2019t dwell on the past.” I\u2019ll tell you how I learned that one. I\u2019ve told this story too many times. I once was interviewing George Will. Way, way back, before this program even started, when I was working in Sacramento.<\/p>\n

I asked him: “Do you ever stay up after everybody\u2019s gone to bed at night having an adult beverage, and do you ever sit down in the dark and ponder what you mean to people?” “No, no.” He thought the question was silly. He thought it was ridiculous. He didn\u2019t have time for that. He had to worry about what he had to do the next day. And he meant it. Don\u2019t dwell on the past. Don\u2019t think how great you were. Don\u2019t think how wonderful they thought of you back then, because tomorrow it doesn\u2019t matter. There\u2019s more.<\/p>\n

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RUSH: We\u2019re back. Concluding the “13 Things Mentally Strong People Do Not Do.” And, by the way, I understand that if you\u2019re in a personal relationship, like a marriage or boyfriend\/girlfriend or boyfriend\/boyfriend, whatever, and being concerned with what the other person thinks. There are exceptions to all of this. But I\u2019m referring to this mostly in an individualistic sense. These things are all applicable in that regard.<\/p>\n


\nOkay. Number seven, they “don\u2019t dwell on the past.” Number eight, they “do not make the same mistakes over and over.” They learn when something doesn\u2019t work. And they don\u2019t keep proving it by trying it over and over. It doesn\u2019t work? Try something different. Don\u2019t be obstinate and strong-headed and prove that it\u2019s something will work when it doesn\u2019t. This is not giving up. It\u2019s simply finding another way.<\/p>\n

They do not resent… Mentally strong people do not “resent other people\u2019s success.” I think that\u2019s kind of tough. I think a lot of people resent other people\u2019s success no matter who they are. I believe mentally strong people are able to get past that, but I think that affects a lot of people. That\u2019s human nature, too: Jealousy, envy. Number ten, they “don\u2019t give up after their first failure.”<\/p>\n

That\u2019s obvious. Number 11, they “don\u2019t fear being alone.” You think that\u2019s a tough one? Being alone is tough for a lot of people. I do my best work alone. I\u2019ve never been a collaborator. I can\u2019t stand collaborating. Collaborating holds me back. Number 12, they “don\u2019t think the world owes them anything.” And number 13, “they don\u2019t expect immediate results.” They\u2019re content to wait a couple of three days for the welfare check to be deposited.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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